The Best Antidote for Depression

I know we all are so hesitant when it comes to the matter of our mental health. In 2020 when we all were locked in our houses, we all got the taste of the reality checks. I guess the only good thing about this pandemic situation is that it made us stop and reflect on our life. We all kept ourselves so busy in chasing life, constantly running to do the next thing and in the process we somewhere forgot to check on ourselves. We forgot to sit back and ask ourselves that if we are feeling good about the choices we make, if our head space is a gentle space to live in. Lockdown forced a torch light on every damaged area of our life and made us see the obvious cause all of our hiding places were sealed. We had no choice but to face it. But still so many people prefer to avoid asking these questions to themselves.

This blog is for those, wise ones who were forced to see the obvious but don’t know how to cope with it. Those who didn’t like what they see and its sudden realization brought all of their fears on surface. The guilt of not being good enough, wise enough or courageous enough when your life badly needed it, eat you alive every night. We are often taught how to forgive others for their mistakes but nobody taught us how to forgive ourselves when we are the one making mistakes and creating blunders in life. Most people struggle to even accept they are the one who screwed them up big time and some really brave ones have the courage to face it head on. And if you are one of them I just want to say, “I am so proud of you.” You bloody deserve it because you just passed the first level to heal it. Now it’s time for the next level.

In the next level, you feel powerless, anxious and heartbroken. You feel alienated in your world. Everything that gave you confidence, a sense of happiness or security just feels so meaningless and troublesome now. You just want to hide in one corner away from the whole world, consoling your heart. You fight those little lemons of fear, doubts, what ifs, ego and anger so bravely on some days. But every day is not same. On some days fears surround from all directions and you struggle to breathe. You struggle to find that one ray of sunshine in this scary room of darkness. Sometimes you even wish if someone just comes now and take you in light. Someone who will tell you that you are safe, you are enough, everything will be alright and that this darkness is bound to fade away. But you closed all the doors already for that someone to show up. On some days it’s so hard to survive through this, but you keep suffering in silence alone because you think that’s how it should be done. That no one out there will truly understand and feel what you are going through. Your fear will tell you that nobody cares about your pain or you but that’s not true. I know world is not a cozy place to rely on. They judge you often. They say you are being overdramatic. They say you are too sensitive. And then they ask you to pretend to be happy and move on because they love you so much to see you suffering. I have been there and done that. I can totally understand why you closed all those doors. Not everyone deserves to see your scars, your dark places, your fears and your vulnerability in those weak moments. But I am betting, you can at least find one person you can count on when you open your heart to receive the support. It could be anyone, your best friend, your parent, your spouse, your counsellor, your let’s grab a drink together kind of friend, that lonely aunt living across the road or even a complete stranger. You ask your heart by taking some breaths and it will show you who that person is for you or you will just crash onto them somewhere all of a sudden.

You can’t expect a flower to bloom in the same environment that wilted it so badly. To make a flower bloom in its full glory, you have to change its place so that it will get enough sunlight, you have to give it enough water, love and nutrients, you have to nurture it and protect it daily from all the dangers of the world, especially because it is weak and vulnerable at this phase of life. So it needs extra care and support. We are no different than a flower. Just like flower we need extra care, new atmosphere and love to bloom in our life. If you feel stuck and lonely where you are now, then change the place, the people you spend most of your time with, the way you spend your time and the things that you give most of your energy to. Give more time to things that makes you happy, spend more time around people who makes you feel loved and appreciated. Just take that little step ahead to ask for support and to reach out for discussing what you are going through. Even if they can’t help you with the solution of your problem and they just really made and effort to listen and understand what you are going through. Believe me when I say your half pain and fears will be gone. You might get a new perspective to look upon the problem. Humans are designed as a social beings by the creator. We feel empowered by the kind of relationships we share with the world. Your healing process will speed up by ten times straight if you could find just one person who cares. Fears escapes from back window when compassion enters the room. So choose to be bold today and seek out support. It’s the best antidote in the market to fight chronic depression, childhood traumas, all kinds of PTSD symptoms and all mental health issues in general. So my friend, I urge you today to ask for support and make a change. You deserve it. God don’t want you to suffer so much alone. He loves his child so much. He will always send the necessary support at crucial times. You just have to ask for it first and be ready to receive it. Ask with faith and you shall receive.

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